HOW TO SHIFT FROM PLEASER TO LEADER, part 4

ASK YOURSELF THE HARD QUESTIONS BEFORE ANY POTENTIALLY DIFFICULT CONVERSATION




— Leadershift: The 11 Essential Changes Every Leader Must Embrace by John C. Maxwell

Do Not Avoid Tough Conversations

"Leadership demands that we tackle the problems. That includes tough conversations. And their difficulty increases when the issue is not easy and it involves people on our team. But we should never delay tough conversations.

The more you wait, the more difficult they become.

Why?

• Silence to most people means approval.

• When people have to fill in the blanks themselves, they do so negatively.

• Problems left unaddressed have a snowball effect: they become larger and gain momentum.

• Problems left unaddressed cause inner erosion: we lose respect for ourselves internally.

• The Law of Diminishing Intent is in effect: The longer you wait to do something you should do now, the greater the odds that you will never do it. One of these days becomes none of these days."

— Leadershift: The 11 Essential Changes Every Leader Must Embrace by John C. Maxwell

HOW TO SHIFT FROM PLEASER TO LEADER, part 3

WORK TO ESTABLISH EXPECTATIONS UP FRONT

As a leader, you can either set expectations on the front end and set up the working relationships for success or leave expectations unstated and deal with disappointment on the back end for both you and the people you're leading.

Sharing and setting of expectations on the front end as the litmus test for a leader.

Go out of my way to be up-front with people.

•​Up-front appreciation places value on the person and increases the value of our time together.

•​Up-front expectations increase the value of any meeting. (The sooner I set expectations, the quicker and easier the meeting.)

•​Up-front questions are the quickest way for people to understand one another and increase the value of our time together.

•​Up-front discussion influences the way and direction we lead others.
•​Up-front decisions increase the value of our time together.

HOW TO SHIFT FROM PLEASER TO LEADER, part 2



2. VALUE PEOPLE AS MUCH AS YOU VALUE YOURSELF

Your value assessment of yourself determines your personal investment in others.

•​Leaders who value their people give them their best effort. 
•​Leaders who devalue their people give them little effort. 
•​Leaders who value their people serve them. 
•​Leaders who devalue their people want to be served by them. 
•​Leaders who value their people empower them. 
•​Leaders who devalue their people control them. 
•​Leaders who value their people motivate them. 
•​Leaders who devalue their people manipulate them.

HOW TO SHIFT FROM PLEASER TO LEADER, part 1



1. CHANGE YOUR EXPECTATIONS TOWARD LEADERSHIP - I had to put my thoughts in the proper order

By learning to ask myself these three questions in this order, I was able to clarify my motives for leadership decisions.

1.​What's best for the organization? 

2.​What's best for other people within the organization? 

3.​What's best for me?

"YOU NEVER KNOW IF PEOPLE ARE REALLY WITH YOU UNTIL YOU ASK THEM FOR COMMITMENT."

— Leadershift: The 11 Essential Changes Every Leader Must Embrace by John C. Maxwell

CONSISTENCY

LEADERS UNDERSTAND THEY NEVER GET TO STOP CLIMBING

— Leadershift: The 11 Essential Changes Every Leader Must Embrace by John C. Maxwell
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Consistency Provides Security for Others

Consistency Establishes Your Reputation

Consistency Keeps You in the Leadership Game

Consistency Compounds

The reality is that •
​Practicing is not amazing.
•​Studying is not amazing.
•​Showing up is not amazing.
•​Working hard is not amazing.
•​Asking questions is not amazing. •​Changing is not amazing.
•​Trying is not amazing.
•​Failing is not amazing.
•​Trying again is not amazing.

But every one of these things is necessary. They are the price you must pay every day to reach your potential. If you pay that price and do it consistently, the final result can be amazing.

- John C. Maxwell

The Cost Shift



Strength and growth come through continuous effort and struggle.—NAPOLEON HILL"

- Leadershift: The 11 Essential Changes Every Leader Must Embrace by John C. Maxwell

GROWTH PERSPECTIVE - Shifting From Goals to Growth

"Few things have a greater positive impact than shifting from goals to growth. Why do I say that? Because the benefits are so numerous.

Make growth your priority and . . .

• You will unlock and achieve your potential.
• You will feel good about yourself.
• You will strengthen your values and abilities.
• You will grow in humility and self-awareness.
• You will become more so you can do more.
• You will be an example for others to follow.

I want to say one more thing about shifting from goals to growth before we move on to the next leadershift.

Being a goal-oriented person means having more of a short-term mind-set. We often reach for goals because we want the positive feelings that come from quick achievements.

But when we make the shift to focusing on growth, it means we've begun to adopt a long-term mind-set. By focusing on growth, we go from improving in spurts to improving day after day to reach our potential. That consistency compounds."

— page 59 Leadershift: The 11 Essential Changes Every Leader Must Embrace by John C. Maxwell


HOW TO BECOME A GROWTH-ORIENTED PERSON

1. EMBRACE CHANGE


2. ADOPT A TEACHABLE SPIRIT

3. MAKE YOUR LOVE FOR LEARNING GREATER THAN YOUR FEAR OF FAILURE

4. DEVELOP RELATIONSHIPS WITH OTHER GROWING PEOPLE

5. DEVELOP GREATER HUMILITY

6. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

7. EMBRACE LAYERED LEARNING

From Chapter 3 — Leadershift: The 11 Essential Changes Every Leader Must Embrace by John C. Maxwell

GOALS TO GROWTH - The Personal Development Shift

Improving yourself is the first step in improving everything else. —UNKNOWN

"The goals I set and achieved were nice, but they weren't as significant as the growth I experienced. Goals helped me to do better. But growth helped me to become better. The growth experience was giving me greater satisfaction than reaching individual goals." - John Maxwell

Growth Changes

As I look back at the time I was making this personal development leadershift from goals to growth, I can see that I made three significant shifts in the way I approached becoming a better leader: 

1. GROWTH OUTWARD TO GROWTH INWARD 

2. GROWTH IN EVERYTHING TO GROWTH IN A FEW VITAL THINGS

3. GROWTH WITH A TIMELINE VERSUS GROWTH WITHOUT A FINISH LINE



From — Leadershift: The 11 Essential Changes Every Leader Must Embrace by John C. Maxwell