13 Choices to Achieve Sustainable Results

 If you limit your choices to only what seems possible 
and reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you
 truly want , and all that is left is compromise - Robert Fritz

1.     I’ve got to choose to have the right mindset

2.     I’ve got to choose to have the right support and higher expertise

3.     I’ve got to choose to have a robust evaluation and correction system

7 Reasons to Stop Being a Perfectionist

Krista Jezek shared this with me a few years. She got it off a discussion on LinkedIn and I've Googled looking for the original source but it seems the list has been around for some time and lot's of credits.

Here's the list (and please let me know if you know who originally came up with it)..
  1. Perfectionism causes procrastination
  2. You get caught up in the details
  3. Perfectionism doesn't allow you to be yourself
  4. Perfectionism set you up to need others' approval
  5. Perfectionism causes you to be in a constant state of stress, because you’re always trying to meet your perfect standards
  6. Perfectionism stops you from taking a risk
  7. Perfectionism stops you from picking up the phone

    To that end..........#BuildItOutInFront

Failure Has Benefits....

One of the best books I've even "not" read is Maxwell's Failing Forward. 

I haven't read it, know I should, but have it and I have reviewed it. I've also read numerous quotes John's made about it. (I'm pulling it out to put in my 'need to read soon' stack)

My friend John Griffin told me our mutual mentor Paul Martinelli hit him with the Success Cycle recently: Test, Fail, Learn, Improve, Re-Enter. (I have that written on a post-it note inside my daily planner and look at it numerous times a day)

Personally, I think action around "anything worth doing is worth doing poorly until you can learn to do it well" will propel one towards an incredible amount of getting things done. Add the Success Cycle and the possibilities are endless. 

Ha! Failure! It's an event, not a person. Most of us just don't get that. We don't know how to make failure work for us.

Friend and colleague Hurdie Burk were talking about his Business Warrior initiative and I was drilling him on his intentions for the group and whether I was willing to invest the time and money. Hurdie knows success isn't just about moving forward, it's about picking yourself up, dusting yourself off and trying it again.

Needless to say, he nailed it because I can't wait for his new group to start.

And to add value, he then sent me the Google post...The Surprising Benefits of Failure. 

To that end.............#BuildItOutInFront

The Flea Trainer, by Zig Ziglar

DLS note. Zig continues to so greatly influenced my life, long after his death. One of my favorite of his many stories is this one.....

"Your experience influences how high you think you can go. If you have been told (or told yourself) that you can only expect so much out of life, you may have conditioned yourself to mediocrity.

One of my favorite stories is about flea training. It is the perfect illustration of how your experience can limit what you are able to accomplish. If you put a bunch of fleas in a jar and put a lid on the jar, the fleas will jump up and collide with the jar lid. They quickly adjust how high they jump so they won't hit the lid. After they adjust their jumping power to avoid the lid, you can take the lid off of the jar and the fleas will not jump out! They will have trained themselves to jump so high and no higher. The fleas actually become slaves to their experience and imprison themselves inside the jar—even though they could jump out at any time after the lid is removed.

People do the same thing to themselves. Somewhere in most people's experience, they develop the idea that they can (or should) do only so much and no more. They adjust their expectations of themselves accordingly, and they get what they expect: less than what they are capable of!

I believe you have the potential to do and accomplish far more than you believe you are capable of doing and accomplishing! I believe that because history is filled with stories of men and women who have done just that. If you study the lives of great people, you usually discover they came from average families, living average lives, doing very average things. Then, these people have some kind of experience or encounter a turning point that puts them in position to do more than they could even conceive. Or possibly they became sick and tired of living the way they were living and finally said, "Enough is enough!" In every instance they responded to the experience or opportunity and accepted the challenge to grow.

Former United States President Dwight Eisenhower was not a high-ranking officer in the years prior to World War II, but he was passionate about wanting to get out from behind a desk and fight "his war." He was a staff officer to General Douglas MacArthur in the Philippines prior to the war and probably thought continuing in that role would be the best thing he could do. Circumstances of the war and his excellent organizational skills eventually resulted in him becoming the Supreme Commander of all the Allied Armies in Europe, and after the war he was elected president of the United States. Eisenhower is actually quoted as saying, "I thought it completely absurd to mention my name in the same breath as the presidency."

The amazing and even startling point of this story is that there was never one big thing Eisenhower did that changed the course of his life. Every small step, every small promotion, every new direction his military life took led to a culmination of events that resulted in his huge lifetime of success. His willingness to accept every new position, regardless of how mundane or challenging it might be, moved Dwight Eisenhower toward his destiny.

What about you? What do you expect of yourself? What is your turning point? You can do more than you think you can do. But you'll never know if you don't try. Go out there and see all the good things life has to offer a flea trainer."

Bless you Zig and I do look forward to seeing you at the Top. 



Changing Values to Win

"Values influence every aspect of our lives: our moral judgments, our responses to others, our commitments to personal and organizational goals." - Jim Kouzes and Barry Posner write in The Leadership Challenge

The essence of how we live are in our values. We do what we value. 

Ex. I might say I value my health but succumb to my desire to eat heavy carbs, thus living out my value of that emotional pleasure. 

Ex. Getting up early to workout with a group of Camp Gladiators is part of the plan to loose weight / improve strength. That plan is part of of the fulfillment my value of being healthy. 

Values are the intangible aspects of life that make you feel in alignment, complete, on track, and functioning at a high level.
At our core, values change over time and a life that recognizes and aligns with one's core values will feel more satisfying. 

We must first recognize 1. the values will living out versus 2. the values we want to live out. 

Then we can start making adjustments to our activities to align with our goals and desires. 

Some examples of values include adventure, fun, service, creativity, connection, etc. When we consciously design our life to align with our values, life gets immeasurably richer — and easier! 
Process. It's a process to gain clarity of your values and and as you do you'll start designing your life 
To discover your values, ponder these questions:
  • What is important to me?
  • What is important to me about that?
  • How does that make me feel?
Then break it down:

  • What did I do today that I liked? What value was that connected to?
  • What did I do today that I didn't like? What value was that connected to?
The change questions are "what values are winning?" :"What values do I want to win?"

Danny L. Smith, CMPS

Handling a Promotion: Promotions bring privileges...

- the wise leader will use them without abusing them.

- the wise leader will refuse to exploit the privileges entrusted.

"Nehemiah never started Nehemiah Enterprises, Inc."

from "Hand Me Another Brick" by Charles Swindol

Don't Confuse Trust with Hope

We can't confuse Trust with Hope. And I'm not talking about the hope for salvation Christians have in their faith (as I do). What I am talking about is how we trust each other and how "hope (in this context) is not a strategy." Trusting well is a strategy. When we trust well, we can verify that trust, we can hold the other accountable to that trust. When we trust well, we get down to business faster. When we trust well, we have the same motives, the same agendas, and behave well according to that trust we have with each other.

When we don't trust well, we check things out, we display passive-agressive attitudes, we ignore, we just wait for others to "get over it." When we don't trust well, we encumber each other. We slow down the process.

And it cost money, time, and respect.

We have to earn trust. Hoping someone does something doesn't have to be earned, it just kind of happens. Now, remember, I'm not referring to a Christian's hope for salvation, that's a different totally different meaning - though the same root word, different context all together.

Here's an example of what I'm referring to about Trust vs Hope; when you are driving you don't trust that someone will not run a red light because you can't hold them accountable. Oh sure, they can get a ticket, or even pay for your car and hospital bills, but you might be dead!!

Now, what you do do is hope other drivers drive safely, don't run red lights, or cross the line on curves at 70 miles an hour.

Th cyclers on the roads here in Austin are HOPING they don't get run over. It's not trust, but hope.

Same thing happens in business; we can hope for some things and trust in others. Those we Trust Well in, we can verify - we hold someone accountable. Otherwise it's Blind Trust and we are hoping someone doesn't have a seperate agenda.

The more we trust, the more profitable we are, and the more we make a good difference.

Play on words? I don't believe so. Maybe a bit simplistic. Test it yourself and see how it works out.

To that end....


Goal setting and achieving happen at a different level of consciousness

 It's the sign of an educated mind that can
entertain another's ideas without having to own them.
- Goal setting happens in the conscious mind.

- Goal achieving happens in the subconscious mind.

- The subconscious mind is responsible for maintaining our reality. 

- Our reality is made up of beliefs and habits that leads to activities that lead to the results we obtain.

- Results are a direct reflection of beliefs and actions.

Thus, in order to ACHIEVE goals, we perform sustainable actions by changing our beliefs by changing our reality. Our reality is only changing through repetitive thoughts driven by a desire, a purpose, a why.

We can set goals all day long, but they stay in our consciousness, rejected by our unconsciousness, until we change our thinking as it pertains the achievement of those goals.

Goal achieving happens in the subconscious mind and the subconscious is trying to reject any changes. Right now, if this is new to you, it's rejecting it...afraid a change might be coming.

To that end, don't let your subconscious reject something before understanding it.


Thoughts on "Why Change Your Thinking"

I've studied successful people for over forty years and
I've found they are all alike in one way: the way they think.
- John C. Maxwell

That quote is from his book How Successful People Think and right out of the gate, in the introduction, John addresses WHY CHANGE YOUR THINKING?

No doubt John at least pondered the unsuccessful and knew he needed to address this issue quickly;  why one would want to change their thinking?

It's simple, really - if you don't like something in your life, anything; work, home, family, play. If you don't like it, if you want to improve, you must change your thinking. Your thinking controls your actions and 90% of your thoughts are repetitive. Literally. 90% of what you think about today is the same as yesterday and if you want to change, you have to break deep into that 90%. Or else. Or else those habitual thoughts will drive you to........well, they'll drive you to not change.

It's hard to overcome a problem, overcome a situation, overcome where you are right now. You are where you are, I am where I am, WE are were we are because of the journey we've been on, the paths we've taken, the decisions we've made, the happenings that have happened. We could not be where we are without ALL OF THAT.

And when we start applying action to the changed thinking, things start happening to keep us in the old reality. So we have to stay in the change, we have to keep thinking and acting into the changed thinking.

We can't get to a new place with the same thinking that got us HERE.

Back to John's quote, he said "the WAY we think." The WAY we think, and the Way we change our thinking is also the same.


Today. Just Today.

Today. A day in 2016.


Really.? Years fly by. Concerns for years past, I have to search to remember.


Yesterday? Forget it, drive on. FIDO.

Today. Lord, my daily bread.

Don't think about tomorrow.

Today has enough challenges of its own. Don't make today worse by thinking too much about tomorrow.

Today. It's all about today. Making today the best day.

Today. Putting one foot in front on the other, making every step count.

Scripture tells me to be diligent about every action and God will establish my plans.

Today, I know what to do next, do that. And only then will I know what needs to be done then.


It's up to me to make it a great day.