I love hearing from old friends and one showed up in my inbox a few months ago. Roy Whitlock replied to my blog post about roadblocks and blindspots where I wrote about “Perfectionism / Getting ready-to-get-ready and anything worth doing was worth doing poorly until you learned to do it right."
Now, to begin with, I can see Roy walking into my office and asking what he wrote in his email - “I understand getting past roadblocks - but how does one find one's own blind spots? For example, your point #10 - how do you determine the point where "Getting Ready" becomes "Getting Ready to Get Ready"? And if something is worth doing, isn't it worth doing well? Won't doing it poorly start to reflect on your service delivery?” And on he went.....
Roy and I used to have some really good conversations. LOL……As to his plethora of questions (he rarely had just one)….here’s my response -
Getting ready should be short and sweet. "When opportunities come up, it's too late to prepare."
I think of the difference between Blind Spots and Roadblocks in this way; blind spots are blind spots because I can't see them from where I'm at...they're blocked from my view. Normally, they have to be pointed out by someone else or, in some cases, maybe an assessment. An exception to having someone/thing else make me aware of Blind Spots would be during some intense periods of journaling and really searching matters out, asking questions and more questions until I start to uncover some things. Maslow said "it's not what we don't know that's most dangerous. What's most dangerous is what we know but are not aware of."
My thoughts on your 3rd question shadow, in part, the answer to #2. But also, you can't do anything well without doing it. You can't evaluate and correct a non-event. Successful people make decisions quickly and change their mind slowly; they've developed that habit through purposeful choices and a LOT of evaluation and correction.
Hats-off to Roy. It brought a smile to my face when I saw his name in my inbox. Some people make comments to only state their view point. When I said I "responded" and not “answered” Roy’s questions, that’s what I meant….it was a response that fully expects a response in return.
You see, I knew Roy wasn’t just trying to necessarily give his view, but asking questions checking his view against mine and my response to his question was the same.
That habit, responding and not “answering” gets me in trouble many times and it’s been thought that I’m a bit………..non-committal. Oh, I have my view point, my world view if you will, but I know I can’t be right about every thing.
: )
Questions and responses. I can’t help but believe there’s such a different in that and “questions and answers.”
Thanks Roy.
Who are your Roys? Who helps lift your lid by bring you to new levels of awareness, gives you a chance to defend your view with answers, or consider their questions with responses?
The process of a response brings about a “choice” of asking yourself questions.
To that end…………..It’s a great day, make sure you recognize it!
Now, to begin with, I can see Roy walking into my office and asking what he wrote in his email - “I understand getting past roadblocks - but how does one find one's own blind spots? For example, your point #10 - how do you determine the point where "Getting Ready" becomes "Getting Ready to Get Ready"? And if something is worth doing, isn't it worth doing well? Won't doing it poorly start to reflect on your service delivery?” And on he went.....
Roy and I used to have some really good conversations. LOL……As to his plethora of questions (he rarely had just one)….here’s my response -
Getting ready should be short and sweet. "When opportunities come up, it's too late to prepare."
I think of the difference between Blind Spots and Roadblocks in this way; blind spots are blind spots because I can't see them from where I'm at...they're blocked from my view. Normally, they have to be pointed out by someone else or, in some cases, maybe an assessment. An exception to having someone/thing else make me aware of Blind Spots would be during some intense periods of journaling and really searching matters out, asking questions and more questions until I start to uncover some things. Maslow said "it's not what we don't know that's most dangerous. What's most dangerous is what we know but are not aware of."
My thoughts on your 3rd question shadow, in part, the answer to #2. But also, you can't do anything well without doing it. You can't evaluate and correct a non-event. Successful people make decisions quickly and change their mind slowly; they've developed that habit through purposeful choices and a LOT of evaluation and correction.
Hats-off to Roy. It brought a smile to my face when I saw his name in my inbox. Some people make comments to only state their view point. When I said I "responded" and not “answered” Roy’s questions, that’s what I meant….it was a response that fully expects a response in return.
You see, I knew Roy wasn’t just trying to necessarily give his view, but asking questions checking his view against mine and my response to his question was the same.
That habit, responding and not “answering” gets me in trouble many times and it’s been thought that I’m a bit………..non-committal. Oh, I have my view point, my world view if you will, but I know I can’t be right about every thing.
: )
Questions and responses. I can’t help but believe there’s such a different in that and “questions and answers.”
Thanks Roy.
Who are your Roys? Who helps lift your lid by bring you to new levels of awareness, gives you a chance to defend your view with answers, or consider their questions with responses?
The process of a response brings about a “choice” of asking yourself questions.
To that end…………..It’s a great day, make sure you recognize it!
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